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  • blog,  trauma

    “What Can You Donate?”

    May 28, 2019 /

    “So I hear things are still bad,” they say. “They are,” I answer. “What can I do? What organization can I donate to?” It’s well intentioned, from big hearted people. They know my town is still destroyed. They want to help. So I send them to an organization and they probably give some of their hard earned money to it. But I wish I could give them my real answer. After Hurricane Michael hit, we received an influx of donations. Toys for kids, diapers, formula, bottled water … SO much bottled water … tarps, mattresses, food—non perishable of course. But what can you donate seven months later? Can you donate…

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  • blog,  personal development

    Why we Should Love People the Way They Respond to

    May 17, 2019 /

    I didn’t want a lot of people in my hospital room when I gave birth to my kids. When I’m sick, I want to be left alone. If I’m upset, I want to be left alone to process. If I’m going through some serious change, I want to be left alone to think and adjust. After a while I’ll come out, and I’ll maybe talk to one person about what transpired, or I’ll write about it and make art from pain and change. I extended the same courtesy to my friends and family for a while. I left them alone when big events happened because that’s what I need. I tried…

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    Poem: I am the Result of Thousands of Years in the Making.

    April 15, 2019

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    April 9, 2019

    This is just temporary, so don’t judge me.

    June 16, 2020
  • blog,  mental health,  trauma

    Grief Is Not Linear

    May 16, 2019 /

    People arrive at the most tumultuous, most painful points of grieving right around the time their friends and loved ones tire of hearing about it and are ready to move on. Think about that.  In the initial weeks, first several months following a traumatic event, you’re not seeing grief … you’re seeing shock, survival and processing. That’s why loved ones from the outside looking in are thinking, “It’s been a year, you should be over this, moving forward by now.” But for the person living after the trauma, they haven’t even really started grieving yet. People used to dress in black for two years following the death of a loved…

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  • mental health,  short story,  trauma

    Short Story: Oh, But How I Would Learn

    May 12, 2019 /

    I needed a change of scene, needed to get out of my house and think. Everything was going great, my life seeming like it was finally smoothing out. Only a semester and a half left of my schooling, my husband had a new job after graduating, and both my young kids were in school for most of the day. It was the first time in six years I found myself completely alone, with free time to wander. Not to mention, my marriage was fire. We were connecting in a way that marked a new stage of our lives. My husband and I had married young and it was hard, like…

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  • blog,  mental health,  personal development

    I Will Always Care What People Think

    May 9, 2019 /

    I have no idea how to not care what anyone thinks. I’ve tried to figure that out my entire life. Hateful remarks used to put me in the bed for days, now it’s just an hour. Maybe I can get to where it only stings for a few minutes. The truth is, I will always care what people think of me. I care because I love people, I love humanity. I love our flaws and interesting stories. I love how complicated we all are. I’m interested in all sorts of viewpoints and methods of thought. I care because I’m not a sociopath.  I read something once that transformed my life.…

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  • blog,  mental health,  parenting,  trauma

    You Can Be Anything, Except Safe

    May 8, 2019 /

    I sent my kids off to school today with a bit of fear. The same small reluctance that plagues every parent after a school shooting in the U.S. I got them dressed and packed their lunches. I looked both of them in the eyes and told them I loved them. I gave them hugs and shooed them off like it was any other day. They love school. They love their teachers. It’s the end of the year when water days happen, and field trips and parties and other fun activities. I looked for the extra police presence that’s usually there after a shooting. There they were on every corner, an…

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  • parenting,  poetry,  trauma

    Poem: Drowning Doesn’t Look Like Drowning

    May 6, 2019 /

    “Drowning doesn’t look like drowning,” says the Teacher. “Know the signs, they aren’t quite what you expect.” “Then how can I know what to look for?” asks the Mother. “Keep your eyes open and your hand outstretched.” When someone is drowning, their arms won’t be flailing. No dramatic yells or sound effects. Their heads will be low with their mouths in the water. Your baby won’t be crying, they don’t know how yet. “Drowning doesn’t look like drowning,” says the Teacher. “Know the signs, they aren’t quite what you expect.” “Then how can I know what to look for?” asks the Mother. “Keep your eyes open and your hand outstretched.”…

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  • mental health,  poetry

    Poem: Death Told me I Had Time Left

    May 3, 2019 /

    I met death at three years old. I fell out of my highchair and hit my head. I sang “Ring Around the Rosie” while the doctor told my mom I had a concussion. Death told me I had time left. I met death at six years old. A man hit my Papa’s truck with me and my cousins in the back. I hit the back window and the man took off. Death told me I had time left. I met death at seven when my Papa died. He winked at me from across the room of the funeral home. Death told me I had time left. I met death at…

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