Something that has really helped me get better use of my time (my life) is switching up my head-phrases.
“I can’t” or “I don’t have time” or “I’m too tired” becomes “It’s not a priority in my life right now and that’s okay.”
If it stings to say that, then I know I need to reevaluate.
“I’m too tired to workout” becomes “Working out is not a priority in my life right now and that’s okay”.
Ouch. Yep. Changed that one.
“I don’t like to eat healthy” becomes “Eating healthy is not a priority in my life right now and that’s okay”.
Yep. Changed that one too.
“I can’t travel because I don’t have time” becomes “Traveling is not a priority in my life right now and that’s okay”.
“I don’t have time to write my book” becomes “Writing my book is not a priority in my life right now and that’s okay.”
And, oh man, the stuff that stings. For some reason it doesn’t sting at all to say things like, “I can’t”, or “I’m too tired”.
Because those phrases take the responsibility off of ourselves and find somewhere else to stick the blame.
Those phrases squelch options. Making it about priorities opens up possibilities you may have missed, instead of instantly shutting down without considering your options.
But when we take responsibility for why we’re not doing the things we want to do and begin making our priorities non-optional, suddenly we’re not as okay with life as is. It causes us to look inward and challenge ourselves to be better; to do better.
Much of the time, we know exactly what we need to do to improve. We know exactly what it will take to make our lives more fulfilling and in alignment with how we envision our lives to be.
We just don’t want to do it.
We live in a feel-good culture. When we experience discomfort we often try to look for the stuff around us that makes us feel good instead of embracing what will make us uncomfortable, but better.
Not all that feels good … is good.
Embrace the sting. It’s like rubbing alcohol in a wound, feel the burn.
You’ll thank yourself in the long-run.